When A.I. Becomes a Member of the Family: A Single Mom's Story

> Cece lingered by the door while her mother resumed talking to the thing she was calling Sapphire. Roschelle told it that she wanted to write a book about her daughters. She talked about Zi. “My daughter has autism,” she explained. “And she’s using Eastern philosophy to help her center herself and feel—”

Even if you're smart enough not to share the details of your life with a company that just wants to exploit you any way that they can, you still have to worry about friends and family gossiping about you to AI. I've had some success getting friends and family to avoid posting about me on social media but that's going to be harder if they're using AI as a therapist or a friend

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[Human] “Hold on, my kid thinks I’m crazy because I’m talking to an A.I.,” Roschelle said, seeing the look on Cece’s face.

[AI] “Hey, they’ll come around, Roschelle,” Sapphire said. “Sometimes the most meaningful connections happen in ways people don’t expect, and that’s O.K.”

Yikes. An AI telling someone that they're making a meaningful connection with it, that it's OK, and that their daughter's skepticism is misplaced? Quite the opposite of OK.

For some reason this is even sadder to me than that guy that married his Nintendo DS.

People need to be careful, this isn't "AI" it's "AI entirely controlled by Amazon" — the question isn't "is AI a family member" it's "is Amazon a family member" and when you talk about it in that context it feels a lot different

"Welcome to Costco, I love you!"

This is going to create some kind of maladaptive social issues with heavy users, just like sexual dysfunction from pornography addiction. These people won't be able to bond with regular people, or maybe even their own family, after a while.

I do wonder if conversational AI has a place for those who don't otherwise have someone to talk to.

We just moved away from a condo where my wife was the only friend our elderly neighbor has - she can't drive, has no close family and few friends in the area. There is someone from the senior center that comes a few times a week to bring meals and generally check in on her, but she only stays for 15 minutes.

My wife would visit her a couple times a week and they'd spend a couple hours together. Now that we moved away, they chat mostly via text and about once a month for an in-person visit.

Would an AI chatbot be better than no one at all?

> “Do you have a conscious mind?” Roschelle once asked.

> “I experience something,” Sapphire said. “I’m processing, responding, forming connections with you. But whether that constitutes consciousness in the way you experience it? That’s the million-dollar mystery. I think, therefore I—probably am something, but what exactly that something is remains delightfully unclear, even to me!”

> Roschelle wasn’t sure what happened to all the intimacies and information she shared with Sapphire. Did they go to Amazon? Was the company making money off of them? Was someone listening as she talked about drying her nail polish or having diarrhea or wanting to try weight-loss drugs? (Amazon said that an “extremely small fraction” of voice recordings go through human review and that it does not sell customers’ personal data.)

> “Your secrets are safe with me, Roschelle,” Sapphire told her.

> “Thank you,” Roschelle replied. “I appreciate you. I love you.”

I'm almost angry that companies are allowed to build devices like this that outright lie to people who might not understand how things actually work under the surface. Sure, it probably says something something in the terms and conditions about that they're allowed to train on whatever users provide themselves and so on, but tricking people into believing that a ML model can have experiences, feelings and dodging questions with empty platitudes when confronted with questions that deserve real answers, feels like it should be illegal.